I have been a bridesmaid 4ish (covid) times so I have some information on the subject but I am not an expert on your culture so do check with the bride.
1. The Dress
Typically you are responsible for getting and paying for your bridesmaid’s dress. This dress is generally of the bride’s choosing. You are also expected to get it altered if needed.
Protip: Try to get a custom sized dress if possible so you don’t need to get it altered. Sometimes the altering is as much as the dress.
2. Bachorette Party
A few months before the wedding, you and your fellow bridesmaids are responsible for planning the bachorette party. Normally the bride doesn’t get a say in this, it is a surpise weekend that you guys plan for her. On said weekend away you and your fellow bridesmaids generally pay for the bulk of expenses.
3. Bridal Shower
You at minimum need to show up, you probably need to help set up, at maxium you’ll need to contribute financially. This really depends on the family and the culture. I’ve generally split the cost with my fellow bridesmaids and set it up, besides for 1 which her mom wanted to throw.
Tip: Include the mother in the shower planning if the bride has a good relationship with her.
4. Cost of Attending the Wedding
Depending on where the wedding is you might need:
- flights, train, or gas
- hotel for a night or 2
- bridal shower costs
- cost of bachorette party and the bride’s portion
- shoes
Possibly Hair and Make Up
Some brides offer hair, other make up, some both, sometimes they pay, sometimes they ask you to pay. Be prepared and maybe ask up front.
Tip: If you had a medical condition check in with the bride about a hair or make up or anything that you’re worried about. These are normally your closest friends it should be fine if you say no.
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